Since I've lived so much of my life with chronic pain and fatigue, usually when I get sick it doesn't hit me too hard because I'm used to functioning on less than optimal health. These last couple of weeks though hit me hard with the flu!
After two weeks of physical shut down, and crummy weather to boot, we had a lovely sunny day and I was up for spending some time out doors with the boy.
He found a few branches to jump on, then we decided to build forts. We tried a few different places and then settled on two different spots to build. After a bit, he started to complain that he was getting splinters and caught by blackberries and you'd think the damage done to his hands was intense.
You see, my son has had the misfortune to pick up on extreme sensitivities from both of his parents. This means that while I have empathy for part of his sensitivity, the drama with which he demonstrates it sometimes makes me want to roll my eyes.
I wonder if I was so dramatic when I was little, but I don't really think that I was. What I do know though is that I was extremely physically sensitive and I learned to tune it out to the point where my body screamed back in pain and fatigue.
I realized I've worked so hard these last few years to stop toning myself down and tuning myself out, yet here I am inadvertently encouraging my child to do just that. I want him to stay connected with his feelings, but do it in a way that doesn't make himself and others around him more miserable.
So here's my question to you if you also have a spirited and dramatic child - how do you encourage them to feel and process their feelings without "taking it out" on other people?