114: Harnessing Your Power

This week on Embracing Intensity, I'm sharing the first lesson of my Ignite Your Power Course. In this lesson, we will observe our own powers, get clear on how to harness them and develop a “power toolkit” to help harness them more. You can find the full group discussion and other materials related to the lesson in the Embracing Intensity Community

Harnessing Your Power!

In this episode, I discuss: 

  • The 5 types of excitability.

  • How do your excitabilities look when suppressed, out of control and harnessed?

  • Tips for harnessing each excitability.

  • Improving your self-regulation skills.

  • What it looks like when you are "in the zone."

  • Developing a Power Toolkit.


Firmina Foundation

Ignite Your Power Course

Embracing Intensity Community

113: Using Language to Express Your Intensity with Abbi Wood

How do you think it feels to feel stifled and suppressed your whole life, always being told what to say and what to do? It doesn’t sound like a fulfilling way to live, does it? It’s especially difficult for someone with intensity, unable to express their thoughts and words. Today’s show tells the inside story.

Abbi Wood loves words and having fun with language. Perhaps this love stems from the fact that her words were suppressed for so long. She now loves the growth and evolution of words, and how new words emerge and old words become redundant, faster than you can say---redundant! As a kid, Abbi dreamed of getting a Ph. D. in the English language, and now she has more than 20 years under her belt working with words. She has a double degree in math and computer sciences because her family convinced her that making a living as a writer was an impossibility. A challenger by nature, Abbi fought against so-called “truths” her entire life. As a woman and a person of color, she heard more than her fair share of what to do and what to say in the world, and she’s learned to take what she hears with a grain of salt. She’s also learned how to think for herself and make up her own mind. Join us as we jump into Abbi’s story and her intensity.


Show HIghlights:

  • Why Abbi is passionate about being herself and being free from the burden of other people telling her what to do and say

  • Why Abbi likes helping her clients with being free and unburdened

  • Abbi’s own brand of intensity and what it looks like

  • Why she loves encouraging people to be themselves because she wasn’t allowed to do that for a long time

  • How Abbi tries to offset chaos by using organization and systems that work for her

  • How she wasn’t allowed to manifest her intensity while growing up

  • How can I be of service without being a slave to people-pleasing?

  • Why cultural factors led to Abbi feeling like she didn’t have the voice she wanted, in her family and in the world

  • Growing up in Pakistan, England, and the US

  • Why Abbi thought she could never accomplish the things she wanted

  • How Abbi felt like two different people: the one she was at home and the one she was out in the world

  • A time when Abbi felt out of control when it became harder and harder not to say what she wanted to say with her brothers

  • Abbi’s fears for her daughter, and not wanting her to grow up feeling stifled and suppressed

  • Abbi’s words to parents

  • How Abbi uses her fire for good in her business, helping people write what they want to say

  • How Abbi comes from a place of sharing what she loves

  • How she helps harness the power of intensity, with systems, lists, organization, and hacks

  • What the concept of “contaminated time” means for overwhelmed women

  • The importance of being connected and staying social

  • Abbi’s best advice from herself: “Find your freedom”

  • Abbi’s best advice from a book she read: “Focus on the ONE thing that will move you forward right now.”

  • Books that have helped Abbi and been impactful in her life

  • Vulnerability: what it is and what it is NOT

  • How Abbi helps others use their fire, by uncovering what’s inherent in them and demonstrating it with language

  • Why Abbi takes the time with her clients for intensive discovery

  • Abbi’s challenges to listeners: “I challenge you to be yourself, even though you might sometimes feel at odds with yourself and with the world. There is a method to the madness, so be who you are.”


Abbi Wood

The Age of Overwhelm by Laura van Dernoot

Profit First by Mike Michalowicz

Brene’ Brown books

"I lived my whole life being told what to say and what to do." ~ Abbi Wood
Using Language to Express Your Intensity with Abbi Wood
"How do you know who you're speaking to if you don't know where you're coming from?" ~ Abbi Wood

110: Fostering Self Compassion in Gifted Individuals: Talk with Heather Boorman

We are super excited to have Heather Boorman, of the Fringy Bit Podcast, share her talk on Self-Compassion from the SENG (Supporting the Emotional Needs of the Gifted) conference last summer!

Self-Compassion has been proven to be an effective mindset and intervention toward more sustainable mental health and self-concept. This presentation will apply the work of Dr. Kristin Neff in the field of self-compassion to the gifted population and typical struggles faced by many gifted individuals. In particular, we will consider how Dabrowski’s super-stimulabilities and other typical psychosocial traits can lead to perfectionism, imposter syndrome, self-judgment, low frustration tolerance, depression, and anxiety. We will consider the ways in which society’s responses to giftedness and emphasis on self-esteem can also contribute to un-wellness in gifted children, youth, and adults. Self-compassion will then be defined and defended as an effective intervention toward increased wellness. Attendees will be introduced to, and participate in, exercises to increase self-compassion. The session will be a blend of lecture and interactive.

Fostering Self Compassion in Gifted Individuals

Learning Objectives:

  1. Participants will be able to identify at least 5 psychosocial traits typical within the gifted population

  2. Participants will be able to explain how typical psychosocial experiences of gifted individuals may contribute to un-wellness in the forms of perfectionism, imposter syndrome, low frustration tolerance, self-judgment, and mental health issues.

  3. Participants will be able to define self-compassion and identify the 3 components that contribute to self-compassion

  4. Participants will be able to identify and implement at least 3 interventions to increase self-compassion.

    About the Author:

    Heather Boorman lives an intensely joy-filled and full life as a homeschooling mom to 3 fringy kids and the executive director and therapist with Boorman Counseling. She passionately advocates for differently wired kids and adults through her work as a national speaker, writer & podcaster at The Fringy Bit. Heather’s also the author of The Gifted Kids Workbook, which provides mindfulness based activities to help kids reduce stress, balance emotions, and build confidence.

    About Embracing Intensity Group Calls:

    Each month on the second Saturday, we will have a guest speaker dive in to a topic they love followed by a discussion with the group. The talk will be shared on the podcast, but the discussion will only be shared with Embracing Intensity community members and patrons. The calls will be on the Zoom platform, which allows you to interact at whatever level you'd like (video, audio or use photo and chat box). There will be opportunity for further discussion in the Embracing Intensity Community.


Fringy Bit Podcast

Embracing Intensity Community

108: Building Community

I'm back after my month off! I was supposed to be resting and taking a break, but last week I had some divine inspiration for the direction of the year to come!

Embracing Intensity Podcast - Creating Community

In this episode:

  • I share about my entrepreneurial journey the past 4-5 years.

  • It all comes back to listening to your gut over "conventional wisdom"

  • Creating a vibrant community both online and in person. 

  • A peek at our upcoming events for 2019!


Power Zone Toolkit

Embracing Intensity Community

106: Your Rainforest Mind - Book Study with Paula Prober

Your Rainforest Mind is one of my all-time favorite books for gifted adults, and we had the privilege of having author, Paula Prober, join us for a group call to discuss her book! In this episode, we share highlights from the conversation and inspiration for other rainforest minded people!

Your Rainforest Mind with Paula Prober

We explore questions including:

  • What are novel strategies to deal with the "fried circuits" of over-excitability outside of the standard "good self care?"

  • How do you approach communicating your excitable nature in groups or conversations where you are afraid you might come off as dominating or "too much."

  • How do you self-motivate when you don't have external forces pushing you forward?

  • Feeling the suffering of the world and responsibility to fix it.

  • How do you deal with the perfectionism that often comes with giftedness?


Find Your Power Word for 2019

What's Up!

It's been a while since I've done a solo episode, between my new schedule and our group call speaker recordings. This week, I'd like to share a bit about what we have coming down the pike in the Embracing Intensity Community! 

What's Up!


  • Share your questions for Author Paula Prober for next week's group call and book study with the author of Your Rainforest Mind on Sat. 11/10 at 10:00 AM Pacific - and don't forget to get your copy of her book!

  • Portland, Oregon Metro area folks, mark your calendar for an amazing in-person event hosted by Rukshana Triem

  • Our lineup of amazing talks coming up in our monthly group calls! Calls are always open and recordings will be shared to those on the call and Patrons on Patreon

  • How can I make my weekly Patreon post more valuable to you?

  • Launching of my Xpress Your Power storewith 50% off Aromatherapy Necklaces. 

  • Lots of great upcoming interviews so keep your eyes and ears out!


XPress Your Power Store

Patreon Community

102: The Gifted Shift: From Label to Identity

We live in a time that's being increasingly defined by activism and calls for social change. As gifted people, we're a part of this as well under the umbrella of the neurodiversity movement. In this talk, we'll take a short, powerful journey into the history, cultural systems, and real-life, everyday acts of activism that we call 'being different'. We'll define giftedness inside a new dimension- as an identity and culture, a unique way of sensing and experiencing the world. And you'll explore your own experiences and ideas to define your passion and priorities when it comes to social change for the gifted. You don't have to be an activist, a community organizer, or an influencer to fight for neurodiversity. You really just have to be yourself- authentically, resiliently, and prepared to speak-up for your needs.

Gifted Culture Project is the brainchild of Anamaria B Call. A gifted mom of two (and wife to a gifted engineer-slash-home-repair-hobbyist), she found herself one day faced with the daunting task of explaining to her son that he's gifted. With degrees and a background in linguistics and intercultural communication, she knew that she wanted to give him more than just a standard definition or even a simple story. She wanted him to understand his giftedness as a different way of experiencing the world. She also wanted him to have the social and emotional skills to handle and thrive in situations where being different is hard.

Join us for our October Embracing Intensity Group Call talk with Anamaria Call, and access the full video with discussion in our Patreon Community.

The Gifted Shift: From Identity to Label

Anamaria has worked in public education and refugee resettlement where she spent more than eight years talking, training, and supporting people of different cultures (and different experiences of the world) to communicate effectively and to better understand each other.

She lives in Vancouver, Washington (in the metro Portland area) and spends her days raising two quirky, wonderful kiddos. She also reads, thinks, and writes A LOT while gently testing the limit on the number of books she's allowed to check-out from her local library.

98: Talk with Benita J

This week, I have the pleasure to share the presentation that Benita J. shared at the SENG conference! 

How Old Am I Really? A Meditation on Asynchronous Development

The purpose of this presentation is to bring awareness to the personal and professional impacts of asynchronous development in a gifted adult who remained unidentified throughout childhood. This presentation may be useful for gifted adults who are struggling to function in the work environment and may be battling issues like burnout, exhaustion, and depression. My hope is to encourage gifted adults embrace their giftedness and celebrate their multi-potentiality as they strive toward authenticity and career fulfillment.

How old am I really?

In this episode:

  • What exactly is asynchronous development?

  • How does it impact you?

  • What strategies help use your strengths and fill in the gaps?


Presentation Handout

Find Your Superpower

The Gifted Adult: A Revolutionary Guide for Liberating Everyday Genius by Mary-Elaine Jacobsen

96: Twice Exceptionality

Have you ever heard the term twice-exceptional? In this episode of Embracing Intensity, I share what it means and why it's important. 

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  • My own story of twice-exceptionality. 

  • Why twice-exceptional people often don't get identified. 

  • What happens when some skills are super high and others are "average."

  • When difficult things seem easy, yet easy things can be really hard.